What if we said what we really meant? What if we told people the actual truth? Why does it seem so difficult for people to be honest with one another? Why can’t they say and be who they really are?
I have grown up with the philosophy that honesty is the best policy. Well without hurting someone’s feelings. There is sheer honesty then there is brutal honesty. I’m not talking about the brutal honesty one here.
If someone invites you to go somewhere and you don’t want to go, why can’t you just say that? Is it fear of hurting their feelings? Is it fear of getting a lecture or pressure to go? What is it that drives people to lie? Here is the thing, 9 times out of 10 the truth will come out. Don’t you think it’s more upsetting to realize that someone lied to you about their reasons for not going than if they would have just come out and said “no thank you”
Do we live in a world full of scary people if you tell the truth. I would think it would be the other way around that you would be in more fear of lying and getting caught than to just tell the truth.
Did you ever ask a child a question? They will typically be very honest with you if not brutally so. They don’t realize they are being brutal though. You asked them a question and they simply answer. Now I understand kids can lie but don’t you think that is something that is taught?
I think our relationships with others would be more real if we were just honest. Laid out the whole truth. No white lies, no omitting of the truth. Let people see you and know you for who you truly are and decide for themselves if they want to be around you. Too many people tend to wear a mask or only show part of themselves. The truth eventually comes out and the real you is exposed. Except now the person can’t really accept the real you because all they feel is lied to and betrayed. Save everyone some time and be who got intended you to be. YOU. Stop lying. Stop pretending. God loves you for exactly who you are and who he created you to be. You can’t lie to him because he knows your heart. Accept yourself. Love yourself. Others will too. It starts with you and it starts with you being honest with yourself and others.
I know I want people around me who truly know me and love me for who I am not who they think I am or want me to be. I am me and that is all I can be. If you like me stick around if you don’t your loss. Everyday I try to be better version of my yesterday self. I have no reason to lie. I am not competing with anyone in this world. I cannot compare myself to others. I can only try to be the best mom I can be. The best massage therapist I can be. The best daughter I can be. The best friend I can be and so on. I guess if I tried to be better than someone else or compare myself I guess I can see where those lies would come into play. Here is the thing who are you really hurting? Well to be honest everyone even yourself.
I just pray you wake up everyday and look in the mirror and like who you see. God created you and he does not make mistakes so make your Heavenly Father proud and be you. The real you. The people who truly matter will be there.