We get so wrapped up in our daily activities, lost in our devices but do we ever stop and look around at our loved ones and realize all that we are promised is today. You may be gone tomorrow. They may be gone tomorrow. I struggle with how to teach my son to cherish his moments with friends and family and make the most of this day. All while trying to remind myself to do the same. But how do we translate this to our children without scaring them? How do we get them to realize there is so much more to life than the latest toy or video game. That time well spent doing an activity with a loved one is so much more rewarding than having the highest score in a video game.
I mean I don’t want to scare my son to think he will wake up tomorrow and all his loved ones will be gone but I want him to appreciate today. How do I even start?
It’s so normal to just plan your week. Oh I will get to that tomorrow. Or I will call him back tomorrow. What if tomorrow isn’t an option. I don’t want to scare you or for you to think morbid thoughts but I want to wake you up to the possibility in thinking of today instead of tomorrow. Yes it’s still ok to plan your week or summer vacation but appreciate today. It’s such a strange concept because we take for granted that we have time. How much time though? I just don’t want to wake up tomorrow and have any regrets of what I wish I would have said or done. I don’t want my son to feel that way either.
One way is by creating those moments. Organizing a family outing to the zoo or museum. Having a board game night. Joining in on a church activity. Taking time away from that TV show or video game and having a conversation about your day. Saying our prayers together. Helping others together at a local charity. Taking time for family dinner every night we can.
We are all so busy it’s easy to get caught up in the tornado of life. I get it. I live it but even if you have to schedule it, do it. 7p family devotional. 6p family dinner. Once a month meet your best friend for dinner. Have coffee with a special cousin. Somewhere in the midst of it all there is time, there are moments to share, to laugh, to remember to make time for those we love.
All we have with them is today. Yes it’s sad to think about that but all the more urgency to make it happen today. Call your grandma, tell her you love her. Mine are in heaven and I wish I could call them. I know some day I will see them again but if you still have your parents hug them tight. If you still have your grandparents, what a blessing! What joy we can bring into our lives by taking time for these moments.
Another way children learn well is by our example. Let him/her see you appreciating the day. Making time for others. Through your effort they will learn this as well.
In all reality one day, someday there won’t be a tomorrow here on earth. Your journey here will end. Your loved ones journeys will end. It doesn’t have to scare you instead I hope it inspires you to reach out more , love more, hug more, pray more.
“May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you a spirit of unity among yourselves as you follow Christ Jesus.” Romans 15:5